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The Smart Woman’s Guide to Diabetes / Women & Diabetes Diabetes Lifestyle Everything Diabetes.

Excerpt taken from Chapter 6: Dating, Sex, and Marriage, When to Talk About Diabetes With Your Date

Jennifer Ahn is fairly open with her diabetes when it comes to dating:

When I was dating, it would depend on how I met the person. I usually would let them know about my diabetes prior to meeting. If it was a blind date, however, I would refrain from telling them until it looked like it was going well. I met my current significant other (my fiancé) online. After exchanging a few emails, I shared with him my background, as we were planning our first date and going biking. I didn’t want him to be alarmed if something happened during the ride. He appreciated my openness and asked some questions, that is, what to do if something did happen, how it affected me, and so forth. He asked whether it was the one I took for or insulin. It wasn’t a big deal to me. It was nice to have it out in the open. There was no shame or embarrassment.

For Lesley Hoffman Goldenberg, sharing her secret was a little more uncomfortable:

When I first started dating my husband, I was so nervous to tell him I had diabetes. We got drinks and then dinner for our first date, and I ate the entire meal and then snuck into the bathroom to give myself insulin. Not a good idea ––my sugar spiked up really high that night. For our second date, we went out o lunch and I did the same thing––ate two sushi rolls and took insulin like an hour later. I was on shots at the time, so it wasn’t as easy as it is now with my pump. I decided to tell him on our third date. After discussing it with multiple friends and my mom for hours, I decided that straightforward, nonchalant, and simple was the way to go (ironically, those are three adjectives I would never, ever use to describe diabetes). Anyway, we grabbed slices of pizza, and I said, “By the way, I have diabetes and I take insulin before I eat. It’s totally not a big deal, just wanted you to know.” (Ha, not a big deal!) He said something really nice and sensitive like, “Oh, okay, I have a coworker with diabetes so I know a little bit about it. Thanks for telling me.”