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How many of us women with diabetes struggle with lows in our relationships? I know I struggled with relationships in the past, and am glad that my husband is (mostly) cool, calm and collected when it comes to lows. For those who continue to struggle, here is a great Q&A with the awesome Susan Guzman from BDI (Behavioral Diabetes Management in CA) in Diabetes Self-Management magazine.

Q I have had Type 1 diabetes for many, many years, and I some- times experience severe hypoglycemia with no warning signs or symptoms—or at least none that I notice. My husband tries to be helpful, and believe me, he has often saved my life. But he never fails to scold me afterward for not recogniz- ing that my blood glucose level is getting low. These episodes are causing real discord in our marriage, and my personal confidence level is sinking lower all the time. I feel I always owe him an apology. Do you have any suggestions for what I—or we—can do to prevent this from destroying our relationship?

A Reduced hypoglycemia awareness can wreak havoc on people with diabetes and their loved ones. Not being able to predict hypoglycemia can leave ever yone involved feeling out of control, helpless, fearful, and frustrated. Those with this problem can lose both their sense of safety and their sense of trust and confidence in their own body. They may also begin to feel hopeless about their ability to prevent hypoglycemia. Many spouses describe the experience of their partner’s lows as extremely frightening and even traumatic. Most often when I hear frustration and anger from spouses about frequent hypoglycemia, it is because of their perception that there is not enough being done to prevent or avoid these episodes. As a result, a couple can start to have serious conflict around these events. It is important for you and your husband to be on the same side again, working together to fight diabetes and not each other.

Read More here.